Self-Harm Support
in Fareham, Hampshire
Warm, confidential support to help you find gentler ways through, at your own pace, in person across Hampshire or online.
Counselling & hypnotherapy in Fareham, Hampshire, and online
Self-harm support, without judgement
If you are hurting yourself to cope with difficult feelings, help is here. Warm, confidential support to understand what is underneath it and find gentler ways through, in person in Fareham or online across the UK.
Fareham, Hampshire, plus online therapy UK wide
Free · Confidential · No obligation · You set the pace
Free support is there while you wait for an appointment
You are far from alone
More common than most people realise
Self-harm affects far more people than most realise, of every age and background. If this is part of your life, or the life of someone you love, there is no shame in it and no judgement here.
Many people carry a heavy sense of guilt, or feel they have to hide what they are going through. You do not have to hide here. Reaching out, even just reading this page, is a real step, and things can genuinely get better.
You also do not need to know which therapy you need. That is our job. Tell us roughly what is going on and we will match you with the right therapist.
Understanding it
What self-harm really is
Self-harm is something many people turn to when emotions feel too big to hold. It is usually an attempt to cope with overwhelming pain, stress or numbness. It is not attention seeking, and it is not something to be ashamed of.
A way of coping
For many people it becomes a way to manage feelings that seem impossible to sit with. It often brings brief relief, followed by the difficult feelings returning.
Often linked to deeper pain
It frequently sits alongside depression, anxiety, low self-worth or past trauma. Gently understanding what lies beneath is a key part of moving forward.
Not a life sentence
With the right support, people learn kinder ways to cope, the urges ease, and a more compassionate relationship with themselves becomes possible.
Your options
Which therapy might suit you
We offer counselling, CBT, clinical hypnotherapy and EMDR, on their own or combined. You do not have to choose now. Your therapist will talk the options through with you.
Counselling
A steady, confidential space to be heard, to understand what sits underneath, and to build self-worth. Often where people start.
About counsellingCBT
Practical work on the thoughts and patterns that drive the urges, with alternative coping tools you can use in difficult moments.
About CBTClinical hypnotherapy
Works with the part of the mind that holds distress, easing emotional triggers and building calmer responses over time.
About hypnotherapyEMDR
Where past trauma is part of the picture, EMDR can reduce the charge in difficult memories that keep feeding the distress.
About EMDRHow we help
Gentle, judgement-free support
You will find a calm, confidential room and a therapist who listens without judgement. We work at your pace, never rushing, and shape the support around you.
- A free, no-pressure first call to see whether we are the right fit
- Space to understand what sits beneath the urges
- Kinder ways to cope that can gradually take its place
- Support to rebuild self-worth, easing the need for self-punishment
Everything is led by you, and everything stays confidential.
If you are worried about someone
Supporting a partner, friend or your child
Finding out that someone you love is self-harming is frightening, and most people worry about saying the wrong thing. A few things tend to help.
- Listen without reacting with shock, however hard that is in the moment
- Avoid ultimatums and promises to stop, which usually add pressure and secrecy
- Let them know you care about them, not just about the behaviour
- Gently encourage support from a GP or a therapist, at their pace
- Look after yourself too, because this is a lot to carry on your own
We work with young people as well as adults. If you are a parent wondering what to do next, a free call is a good place to start. You can also read more about therapy for children and young people.
Recovery grows, one step at a time
Healing rarely happens overnight, and it does not have to. Small steps add up. Many people who once felt trapped by self-harm go on to feel more in control, more settled, and more like themselves again. Whenever you feel ready, we are here.
No surprises
What happens when you get in touch
- 1
You send a message or call
A line or two is plenty. You do not have to explain anything you are not ready to explain.
- 2
A free 15 minute call
A relaxed, confidential chat with an experienced therapist. Ask anything. No cost, no obligation.
- 3
We match you with the right therapist
We suggest the approach and therapist we think fits, in person in Fareham or online, and you decide whether to start.
Counselling from £72 a session. See all fees
Gentle answers
Questions people ask us
Will I be judged if I come for help?
No. You will be met with warmth, patience and complete acceptance. Our therapists have supported many people through self-harm, and you never have to explain or justify how you are feeling.
Is what I say confidential?
Yes. Your sessions are private and treated with the strictest confidence. In the rare situation where there is a serious risk to your safety, a therapist may need to involve others to help keep you safe, and they would talk this through with you first. Nothing is shared with family, employers or your GP without your agreement.
Do I have to talk about the details?
No. You are always in control of what you share, and your therapist will not press you for specifics. The work is much more about what sits underneath the urges and what would help than about the details themselves.
Is self-harm the same as feeling suicidal?
They are not the same, although they can be connected. Whatever you are experiencing, you deserve support. If you are having thoughts of ending your life, please contact the Samaritans on 116 123, free at any time, or call 999 if you are in immediate danger.
Can therapy really help with self-harm?
Many people find that counselling, CBT and hypnotherapy help them understand their feelings, ease the urges and build healthier ways to cope. Everyone is different, and the support is shaped around you and your pace rather than a fixed programme.
What if I am not ready to stop?
That is a completely normal place to start from, and it is not a barrier to coming. Nobody here will set stopping as a condition of being helped. We begin where you actually are, and for many people that is simply wanting to understand what is going on.
Should I also see my GP?
Yes, we would always encourage it. Therapy works well alongside medical care, your GP can help you access wider NHS support, and they can advise on any injuries that need looking at.
Do you see young people?
Yes. Several of our therapists work with children and teenagers as well as adults. If you are a parent, the free call is a good place to talk through what would suit your child and how the sessions would work.
How can I support someone else who is self-harming?
Listen without judgement, let them know you care about them rather than just the behaviour, and gently encourage them towards support. Try not to react with shock or set ultimatums, since those usually push things further underground. Look after your own wellbeing too, and get support for yourself if you need it.
Can I have therapy online instead of coming in?
Yes. We offer sessions in person at our Fareham practice and online across the UK. Many people find a difficult subject easier to raise from their own home, and online sessions work just as well for this.
Whenever you are ready, we are here
Start with a free 15 minute call. A relaxed, confidential conversation with an experienced therapist, a chance to be heard and to ask anything, with no cost and no obligation.
hello@oliptherapy.co.uk · Samaritans 116 123, free any time