Help for Sexual Problems
in Fareham, Hampshire
Sensitive, judgement-free support to help you feel confident and connected again, in person across Hampshire or online.
Counselling & hypnotherapy in Fareham, Hampshire, and online
Therapy for sexual and intimacy problems, without the embarrassment
Sensitive, judgement free support to help you feel confident and connected again. For individuals and couples, in person in Fareham or online across the UK.
Fareham, Hampshire, plus online therapy UK wide
Free · Confidential · No obligation · You set the pace
You are not alone
More common than most people realise
Most people run into a sexual difficulty at some point. It is also one of the hardest things to say out loud, and that silence is often what makes it feel so isolating.
You will be met here with warmth, acceptance and the strictest confidentiality. Our therapists have supported many people through exactly these concerns. There is no embarrassment and no judgement, and nothing you say will surprise us.
You also do not need to work out which therapy you need. That is our job. Tell us roughly what is going on and we will match you with the right therapist, including one who specialises in intimacy and sexual difficulties.
What we help with
Concerns people bring to us
Whatever is going on, you can talk about it here in a calm, private room. You do not need a diagnosis or the right words to book a call.
- Erectile difficulties
- Premature or delayed ejaculation
- Low desire or libido
- Difficulty with arousal
- Painful sex
- Vaginismus
- Fear of intimacy or closeness
- Fear of sex or penetration
- Performance anxiety
- Mismatched desire in a relationship
- Commitment worries
- Loss of confidence or self esteem
- Body image worries
- Anxiety, stress or low mood around intimacy
Feeling overwhelmed by it? Call us in confidence on 0800 970 4776, or book a free 15 minute call.
Making sense of it
Why this happens
Sexual difficulties are rarely about one thing, and almost never about not caring enough or not trying hard enough. Common threads include:
Anxiety and pressure
One difficult experience can turn into worry about the next one, and worry itself makes the body less responsive. The cycle feeds itself.
Stress and exhaustion
Work, money, small children, poor sleep. Desire is usually the first thing to go when your system is already stretched.
Past experiences
Earlier relationships, strict messages about sex growing up, or something that happened to you can shape how safe intimacy feels now.
Relationship strain
Resentment, distance or conversations that never quite happen tend to show up in the bedroom before anywhere else.
Confidence and body image
Feeling self conscious pulls your attention onto how you are being seen rather than what you are feeling.
Physical and medical factors
Hormones, medication, menopause, chronic illness. Worth checking with your GP, and therapy helps with the emotional side alongside.
Your options
Which therapy might suit you
We offer counselling, clinical hypnotherapy, CBT and couples counselling for sexual and intimacy problems, on their own or combined. You do not have to choose now.
Counselling
Space to talk it through properly, understand what sits underneath it, and work out what you want to change. Often where people start.
About counsellingClinical hypnotherapy
Works with the anxious, automatic part of the mind, so your body can settle and you feel more present rather than watching yourself.
About hypnotherapyCBT
Practical work on the thoughts, predictions and avoidance that keep performance anxiety going, with things to try between sessions.
About CBTCouples counselling
For when the difficulty sits between you rather than in one person. Better conversations about needs, desire and disappointment.
About couples counselling
How counselling helps
A safe space to talk and reconnect
Counselling works well for sexual difficulties whether you come on your own or as a couple. Through unhurried, confidential conversation you can make sense of what is happening and decide what you want to be different.
- Understand the root causes, from stress and past experiences to low self esteem or relationship strain
- Improve communication, so you and a partner can talk about needs and desire with less shame
- Rebuild confidence and a kinder relationship with your body, easing performance worries
How hypnotherapy helps
Easing the anxiety underneath
Clinical hypnotherapy works gently with the subconscious, where anxiety, old associations and self doubt tend to sit. In a deeply relaxed state it becomes easier to loosen their grip.
- Reduces performance anxiety, so your attention moves off watching yourself and back into the moment
- Releases emotional blocks linked to past experiences or negative associations with intimacy
- Builds comfort and self esteem, helping you feel relaxed and present rather than braced
No surprises
What happens when you get in touch
- 1
You send a message or call
A line or two is plenty. You do not have to spell anything out before you are ready.
- 2
A free 15 minute call
A relaxed, confidential chat with an experienced therapist. Ask anything. No cost, no obligation.
- 3
We match you with the right therapist
We suggest the approach and therapist we think fits, in person in Fareham or online, and you decide whether to start.
Counselling from £72 a session. Hypnotherapy and couples counselling from £90. See all fees
Private, respectful and completely confidential
This is one of the most personal things anyone brings to therapy, and we treat it that way. Your privacy is protected, your pace is respected, and you never have to share more than you are ready to share.
Good to know
Questions people ask us
Isn't this an embarrassing thing to talk about?
It is completely understandable to feel nervous, and almost everyone does at first. Our therapists have supported many people with these concerns and you will be met with warmth and acceptance. You set the pace, and you never have to say more than you are comfortable saying.
Is everything I say kept confidential?
Yes. Your sessions are private and treated with the strictest confidence. Nothing is shared with a partner, family, employer or your GP without your agreement. The only rare exception is where there is a serious risk to someone's safety, and your therapist would talk that through with you.
Does therapy actually work for sexual problems?
For difficulties with an emotional or psychological element, which is most of them, therapy is often very effective. Performance anxiety, low desire linked to stress, fear of intimacy and confidence problems all tend to respond well. Where there is a physical cause, therapy works alongside medical treatment rather than instead of it.
Can you help couples as well as individuals?
Yes. Some people come on their own, some come together, and some do both at different stages. We can talk through which would suit your situation on the free call, and you can change your mind later.
Should I see my GP as well?
Usually yes. Some sexual difficulties have physical causes such as hormonal changes, medication side effects or an underlying health condition, and a GP can check for these. Therapy then addresses the emotional and psychological side alongside any medical care.
Is there anything physical or explicit in the sessions?
No. Therapy here is talking based. There is no physical examination and no physical contact of any kind. Anything you practise happens privately in your own time, if and when you choose to.
How many sessions will I need?
It varies. Some people want short, focused work on a specific difficulty such as performance anxiety. Others want longer term support, particularly where past experiences are involved. You will get an honest idea after the first session or two, and you are never tied into a block you have not chosen.
Can I ask for a male or female therapist?
Yes, and plenty of people do. Just say so when you get in touch. We would rather find you someone you feel comfortable with than have you sit through sessions feeling on edge.
Do you offer this online?
Yes. We offer sessions in person at our Fareham practice and online across the UK. Many people find a private subject easier to raise from their own home, and online sessions are just as effective for this kind of work.
What if my partner will not come?
That is common and it is not a dead end. Individual work often shifts things at home, because one person changing how they respond changes the pattern between you. Your partner can always join later if they want to.
Take the first, confidential step
Start with a free 15 minute call. A relaxed, private conversation with an experienced therapist, a chance to ask anything, with no cost and no obligation.
hello@oliptherapy.co.uk