Respond, don't just react
Therapy and hypnotherapy for anger management, understanding what lights the fuse and creating the space to choose differently.
Counselling, CBT & hypnotherapy in Fareham, Hampshire, and online
Anger management therapy to help you feel in control again
Anger is normal and human. It becomes a problem when it takes over, or when it turns inward. If it is affecting your relationships, your work or how you feel about yourself, we can help.
Fareham, Hampshire, plus online therapy UK wide
Free · Confidential · No judgement · No obligation
Understanding it
When anger starts to cause problems
Anger itself is normal, healthy and useful. It becomes something worth addressing when it happens too often, feels bigger than the situation, or leads to things you regret afterwards.
Left alone it tends to spread, into your sleep, your health, your work and the people closest to you. It also has a habit of arriving after something else, such as stress, exhaustion, grief or something unresolved from years ago. Anger is often the visible part of something quieter.
The reassuring part is that it responds well to therapy. You do not need to know why you are angry, or which approach you need. That is our job.
You might recognise this
How anger shows up
It looks different in everyone, and it is not always shouting. Read these gently, and without judgement.
- Frequent arguments at home or work
- Feeling something rise that you cannot stop
- Going from nought to sixty
- Bottling it up until you snap
- Regret, shame or guilt afterwards
- Snapping at the people you love most
- Road rage
- Simmering resentment
- Withdrawing rather than exploding
- Anger turned inward on yourself
- Poor sleep, tension or headaches
- Stress, anxiety or low mood alongside it
If any of that is familiar, please be kind to yourself. Noticing it is a genuine strength, and it is the part most people never get to.
Worth being clear about
When it is more than anger
Anger management therapy is the right support for a great many people. There is one situation where it is not, and it matters that we say so.
If your anger has become violent, or if someone in your home is frightened of you, that needs specialist support rather than general anger work. The free, confidential Respect Phoneline exists for exactly this, and calling it is not an admission of being a bad person. It is 0808 802 4040, weekdays 10am to 5pm.
If you are the one who is frightened, the National Domestic Abuse Helpline is free and open 24 hours a day on 0808 2000 247. In an emergency, always call 999.
We would rather point you to the right help than take a booking we are not the right service for. If you are not sure where your situation sits, ring us and we will talk it through honestly.
Hypnotherapy
Working with the part that reacts first
Anger is fast. It arrives before the thinking part of your brain has caught up, which is why deciding to stay calm so rarely works on its own.
Hypnotherapy works with that automatic layer through deep relaxation, rather than trying to reason with it. A body that is less wound up has a longer fuse, and many people notice the gap between trigger and reaction start to widen quite early on.
Counselling & CBT
Understand the triggers, change the pattern
CBT is the better-evidenced of the two for anger. It works on the thoughts that fire in the moment, the assumptions underneath them, and what you do next, with practical tools you can actually use when it is happening.
Counselling looks at what sits beneath. Frustration, stress, grief, unresolved hurt or something older that has never had anywhere to go. Anger is very often the messenger rather than the message.
Most people end up with some of both.
We understand
There is no shame in asking for help
If your anger has led you to behave in ways you are not proud of, you are not the first person to sit in that chair and you will not be judged for it.
Most people who come to us for this have been putting it off for a long time, usually because admitting it out loud felt worse than living with it. It rarely is.
Your sessions are completely confidential, and reaching out is the hardest part of the whole thing.
No surprises
What happens when you get in touch
- 1
You send a message or call
A line or two is plenty. You do not have to give examples or explain yourself in writing.
- 2
A free 15 minute call
A relaxed, confidential chat with an experienced therapist. Nobody will tell you off. No cost, no obligation.
- 3
We match you with the right therapist
We suggest the approach and therapist we think fits, in person in Fareham or online, and you decide whether to start.
Counselling from £72 a session. CBT and hypnotherapy from £90. See all fees
Calmer days are within reach
The goal is not to stop feeling angry. Anger is useful, and a person who never feels it is not a healthier person. The goal is that it stops making your decisions for you.
Your questions answered
Anger management questions, answered
Is it normal to feel angry?
Completely. Anger is a natural, healthy emotion that everyone feels, and it exists for good reasons. It only becomes something to address when it happens too often, feels bigger than the situation, or leads to behaviour that causes problems for you or the people around you.
Can therapy really help with my anger?
Yes. CBT has the strongest evidence for anger, working on the thoughts and reactions in the moment. Hypnotherapy helps with the physical side, the tension and the speed of the reaction. Counselling gets at what sits underneath. Most people use a combination, and many notice the gap between trigger and reaction widening fairly early on.
Will I be judged or told off?
No. Your therapist is not there to tell you what you already know. Most people who come for this have been carrying shame about it for years, and that shame is usually part of what keeps the cycle going rather than what fixes it.
What if I bottle it up rather than explode?
That matters just as much. Suppressed anger builds until something gives, and in the meantime it often shows up as stress, low mood, resentment or physical symptoms. Therapy helps whether your anger turns outward or inward.
My partner wants me to come. Does that count?
It is how a lot of people arrive, and it is a perfectly reasonable starting point. It does help if some part of you wants it too, even a small part. If you are only here to prove you have been, that will show up quickly and we would rather talk about that honestly.
What if my anger has become violent?
Then general anger management is not the right support, and we would say so. The free, confidential Respect Phoneline exists for people who are being abusive or violent towards a partner, on 0808 802 4040. If someone in your home is frightened of you, please start there. It is not an admission of being a bad person.
Can I bring my partner, or should we come together?
Individual work is usually the right start for anger. Where the difficulty sits between the two of you rather than in one person, couples counselling may fit better, and some people do both. We can talk through which suits your situation on the free call.
How many sessions will I need?
It varies with how long it has been going on and what sits underneath it. Focused work on reactions and triggers can be relatively short. Where there is something older involved it takes longer. You will get an honest idea after the first session or two.
Do you work with teenagers?
Yes. Anger in young people is common and often responds well, particularly where something at school or at home is driving it. If you are a parent, the free call is a good place to start.
Can I have sessions online?
Yes. You can be seen in person at our Fareham practice or online from anywhere in the UK. Both work well, and many people find online a more private way to take part.
Whenever you are ready, we are here
Start with a free 15 minute call. A relaxed, confidential conversation with an experienced therapist, with no cost, no obligation and nobody telling you off.